Planning, perfection and being purposeful

Friday, January 19, 2018

I can make a plan like nobody's business, and I know it drives other people nuts. I love a plan. I love lists and tasks and I carry my planner with me practically everywhere I go. Writing things in my planner makes me feel like I'm being purposeful in how I spend my time.

There is something about the brain dump that comes when I write things down. I tried using google calendar, Cozi and a few other apps to keep everything easily accessible and easily shareable but it just wasn't working. My brain still felt like it was swimming all the time. A few years ago I ordered an Erin Condren LifePlanner * based on a recommendation from a friend and I loved it! It's a bit more expensive because of the Canadian exchange rate, the shipping and the duties I seem to end up always paying since the dollar took a tumble a couple of years ago- but I haven't found one I like as much and, frankly, if I'm going to use something every single day I had better love it.

I use my planner to keep track of all the kids activities, my design business, my coaching and fitness programs. I like to make it look pretty and I keep all my reminders there- and still I don't have all my shit together.

I  was having a great chat with a friend the other night and I was admiring her dedication to getting to the gym every day and that I just couldn't seem to get my shit together to get back into it. She remarked that I was the most organized person that she knows and I told her it's all an illusion. Okay maybe not all of it. On one hand I feel super organized, I've got my budget, schedule and to do's in one place. On paper I am perfectly organized and moving forward. Real life is often another story.

Sure I've gotten much better at being on time, no one has missed an activity yet and orders and business tasks are done on time. Having a party? those boxes all get checked and things usually go off really well even if I have to take a few short cuts or prioritize and drop things off the lists. My house is clean because I have a husband who keeps on top of it and we have someone come in every 2 weeks to get to the nitty gritty that I never have time to do (It's heaven and WAY cheaper than a divorce) and my stress level goes way down after I get everything down on paper. We even manage our monthly budget and keep track of upcoming household expenses that we need to plan for in my planner.

My real challenge is in following through when the goal/task is focused on me or something I want. How many of you can relate to that? It's all about what our children need or what others need and there is very little fuel left in the tank after those obligations are met. I've lost track of how many times I have written that I'm turning a new leaf and putting myself first. I preach about self care and  I have this mental block that comes into play whenever I start to focus on me. I've always had this nagging voice in the head that holds me back, whose fear of failure keeps me from pushing past my comfort zone, I get out of it for awhile but then when I start to see real progress and things start to get uncomfortable instead of propelling me forward fear takes hold and I start to slip into old habits. It's sad really, I know what I need to do, I can help others get there but getting myself there is taking time. I need to stop getting in my own way.

I did a vision board webinar this week and I have plans to sit down this week and actually make a vision board. I need to take action and drastically improve my time management in order to finish projects for me (hello- Christmas quilt of 2015- I'm coming for you).

One other thing I'm going to accomplish this weekend is finishing my office area organization. I dare you to find a crafter who's office didn't look like the pre-IKEA white boxes image right after the Christmas rush. I got it 90% there the first weekend of January- it still sits unfinished because I've had other stuff to do- a hockey tournament, orders, school stuff for the kids. No more excuses! I'll get it done and show you the proof next week!

Wish me luck!

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Moving forward in 2018

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

I'm thrilled that I have given the blog a new look! I hope you like it as much as I do. I still have some setting up to do but this is a very busy time of year for me and I decided to stop putting off posting until... until the blog is perfect, until I'm not busy, until I know exactly what to say. I kept putting off our family photos until I lost weight, but I came to the decision that that was stupid so I booked them and I was so so happy with them! So hey if family pictures can turn out without things being perfect, maybe writing again would be okay too.

I'm starting 2018 with a refreshed list of "to dos". I do have goals and those are more specific and measurable and I'll share those at another time. My intentions will remind me to keep moving forward to continue to embrace change and be mindful to live my best life, not the best life everyone else wants to live. We've got some big things coming in 2018 but it's the little things that make each day better.

I've been inspired by Kelle Hampton's categories for my own list- to help keep it more organized :)

Be Present- Make ever day count

Take a technology break- (I'm going to buy an alarm clock and keep my phone away from my bedside too!)
Read and play classic games with our kids

Do a 5 minute meditation
Read a book every month and highlight something meaningful
Write hand-written letters and notes to family/friends who live away

Be Healthy and ActiveCarry a water bottle, keep it full and drink it frequently
Workout 5 times per week (Hubby and I are starting with T25 and I want to do 80 Day Obsession)
Say “No” to sugarGo for a run with the familyLead the kids in a fun workout with musicYoga/stretch sessionGo for a bike ride with the familyTake kids to tennis courts (seriously it's down the street- I have no excuse!)

Be Social
Do an “I’ll bring you dinner some night/you bring me dinner some night” swap
Have a family over for dinner
Reach out to someone new
Organize a book club (even if it’s just for one book)
Be Creative
Art afternoons with kids and display the finished products
Make an inspiration board
Write more! This blog needs some love and attention :)
Find new family activities that involve getting creative
Finish the Christmas quilt (started 2 Christmases ago...)
Feather the Nest
Rearrange a room
Make the bedroom a retreat
Organize the office and make the basement cozier
Finish the rooms- pull together the finishing touches that I keep putting off)
Buy fresh flowers and arrange small bouquets around the house
Be a Learner
Read a new non-fiction book
Sign up for an online course
Watch a TED talk
Find a new informative podcast

Be Responsible

Clean out e-mail box
Unsubscribe to e-mail lists I don't love (I've already cleared out 15 newsletters and it feels so good to free my inbox!)
Sit down with G weekly to check in on our budget and calendar so we can reach our goals quicker
Cross off two to-do’s from my procrastination list 
Have Fun!Have fun whenever possible, don't take everything so seriously!
Take a vacation
Try a new hairstyle

I'll revisit this list throughout the year, not only to keep you up to date but also to keep me accountable to moving forward. 

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